Love Thy Self

“You’ll start having more of what you love when you start loving what you have.” - James Arthur Ray

- that includes your relationship...

Cultivating a relationship is not easy. Most of the times, relationships start from physical attraction and very few are able to sustain that attraction over a period of time. After being attracted, physically, what comes after is the discovery of what lies within. And 99% of relationships succeed given the right attitude and emotion more than just physical attraction.

"The basis of any courtship, date or relationship is basic physical attraction. If you are not attracted to someone and they are not attracted to you, you have just become friends. Whatever happens afterwards, it is likely to stay that way. You both must be physically attracted on some level to make things work. Yes, spiritual attraction, deep respect and friendship all do play a part in the longer term but in the first few minutes of meeting we instantly recognize whether there is an attraction and chemistry present between us." (Top Dating Tips)


Appreciation of oneself is very important before he/she can appreciates his/her partner. Having self-confidence, trust, and especially love to yourself is the most fundamental strength of a relationship. As what the saying goes... you can not give what you don't have. Just the same as you can't give love if you don't have it.

"If the development of personal power is the first golden key to psychological and spiritual health, then unconditional self love is most definitely the second golden key.

Personal power and self love are the building blocks of a healthy self concept and self image. The most important relationship in a person’s life is his relationship to himself. If we are wrong with ourselves, we will be wrong with all other relationships. If we are off center in ourselves, how can we be on center with others?" (I am University)


Most importantly is our spiritual outlook when it comes to love. Most often, this aspect is being neglected by most couples. God's two greatest commandments are: to love God above all and love our neighbors as much as we love ourselves. So, God wants us to love ourselves; to take care of ourselves; and to value the life He has given us. By loving ourselves, we are capable of sharing that love with our neighbors as well!

"You can determine where you are on your spiritual path by seeing how much you love your neighbor and how much you are loving yourself. We also need to learn to allow ourselves to feel God’s love. God’s love is like the sun. It is always shining. It is just a matter of whether we are going to give ourselves permission to receive it. One of my favorite metaphors is that we are diamonds with mud on us. God created us so we are diamonds. Our faulty egotistical negative thinking has put mud on us. I am trying in this book to get out the hose and wash off the illusions of faulty thinking and show you the "real you". Your true identity is the Christ, the perfect creation of God. It is only the ego’s false, negative, pessimistic interpretation of you that makes you feel unworthy or unlovable." (I am University)

So for lovers out there, be sure to give genuine love and before you give it... be sure you have one!

Have a lovely day to all!