Alone and Happy

A lot of people are afraid to be alone, alone in a sense that they always enjoy the company of others. It’s like their happiness are controlled with their social activities. But what people don’t know is to be able to determine true happiness; one must experience to be alone. We need NOT fear being alone, instead we should welcome those moments in our life; those moments when we can be alone with ourselves and be able to contemplate and reflect. I am not saying that we can live alone. Humans are design to live and interact together and with each other. No man lives alone. All of us are responsible for each other but remember not to overlook ourselves, as well!

Wouldn’t you think it is nicer to get out from the busy and noisy crowd and the pressures that keep on pulling our energies down? We need sometime alone to rejuvenate, revitalize and re-energize ourselves.

What is the relevance of being alone in a relationship?

You must learn to be alone and happy before you can be together with someone else and be happy. Your happiness only and always depends upon how you feel when you are alone, never how you think you will feel when you are with someone else.

This also applies in terms of healing from a hurtful past. Our healing comes and mostly experienced when we give ourselves time to be alone. It is making up with the lost times we supposed to have for ourselves when we were still in a relationship. We should be strong enough to resist rushing to the next relationship before all the hurts of the past are healed. Healing takes time.

Being alone for a period of time usually has an extraordinary long-term benefits. When you get comfortable with being alone; when the feeling that you must be in a relationship to feel complete disappears, most likely you will be ready for another relationship.

Over-all, one of the secrets of a healthy love relationship is to be happy being alone with yourself! Your happiness must not depend with how you feel when you are with someone else but how you feel when you are alone. If the satisfaction and happiness are felt without needing and getting them from others, that is the time you can be able to share the happiness with others!