What's in the Middle?

Nothing is so new in my life the past few weeks. I sometimes feel that everything becomes a routine. I begin to self-inquire and sometimes confronted by my own stuff. I sometimes want to do other things, try to venture into new habits or opportunities but somehow it seems I am powerless to choose another course of action!

Grrr… what is happening to me? I usually ask myself… am I now experiencing midlife crisis? But I guess it's a little too early for that! I still have a year to go(giggles)...

Midlife they say are those years when most of us begin to be uncomfortable with the direction our lives are taking. So, we ask ourselves “what now?”, “what’s next?”

Most of us are afraid to change and become anxious about the future! We become restless with our decisions and uneasy with our actions. We are uncertain of what really lies there at the other end. We feel we want to have a difference but are too afraid of trying because we are too afraid to fail. Some people choose to hide out from life and do nothing while some quit trying and watch life pass them and by and wonder why!

Sometimes, our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate to the task rather the fear of failure. But the wise ones make some new choices; the spirit to do something different and dare to be different!

“Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure” – Marriane Williamson

Welcome to the unsettling years! This happens to both men and women in different ways each. These are the times when we feel we are doing little to help fulfill our needs and others close to us. It is when we notice when our needs are not being met; we become restless.

They say a mid-life crisis is only a crisis we create! It is called mid-life crisis for it is believed that those are the times when people (in their mid-life years) experience confusion, discouragement, and feel relatively unproductive!

How to get through this?

It is miserable to get stuck with this so called ‘crisis’! We only get through it when we get past our fears to make new discoveries! It’s terrifying to know that we are the very source of our own misery. Some people never reach that understanding.

As we free ourselves from fears, we begin to love ourselves more. We start to put more into life and receiving more from it. We recognize more options. We feel good about discovering our greatest power… CHOICE! It is the best time to play big and get out from our self-imposed shells.

Let us not forget to understand our own feelings and what caused them, where they came from, who were responsible for them or what else might have influenced them. Those moments of understanding are enlightening!

It is best to demonstrate courage and love instead of fear! Live responsible in the present. FEEL and FILL every moment with love and great opportunities. Focus on now! The past is gone. Accept it. The future lives in the present! When we live in the present, we live happier, longer and a satisfying life. Touch this moment!

Get over with this so-called ‘mid-life crisis’ over early. If you feel that your life is just a series of upsets and compromises and you want to make up with the lost times, start moving on NOW. Be present. Live life moment by moment and enjoy every moment brings.

Most especially, don't forget to recognize the people around you. They are angels sent by God to help us enjoy life at the present. Yes, indeed we are the master of our own lives.