When LOVE is Impossible

If there’s one that I learned about life and love is to always express your love for someone even in the hardest way. Expressing your love doesn’t only mean being verbal about it; sometimes and most of the times, effort counts a lot. The problem is when we face disagreement with someone close to us and we just end up doing nothing and are silent about our feelings. That in turn, makes us indifferent and just accepts the fact that the relationship has ended.

"Relationship often dies because of silence and not in violence."

Proper expression of feelings is very important. It makes us healthy almost in all aspects; physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It creates a good atmosphere not just within our self but with others, as well.

Lately, I faced a lot of stressful occasions and really it made me feel so low and dispirited. It encompassed not only my personal relationship but also my work and my relationship with a very close friend of mine. I told God that I could no longer handle anything else. I wondered maybe God taught of me as a very strong person, when in fact I am not. People would often see me that way not knowing that I am actually hurting inside. For the past months, I’ve been crying about my relationship with Bein followed by a sudden transfer of assignment given to me by the company I am working with. And just recently, a very close friend of mine expressed her disappointment to me. I was really frustrated and questioned why I am being hurt by the people I loved most? As I speculate on the things that are happening to me, I realized that I cannot handle all of them and that I need to trust God as I face all those challenges.

But if there’s one thing very good about all those happenings, I learned to express my feelings. I learned to accept humility as part of my well-being. I began to tell myself that I am hurt but not destroyed; that I can be better and that there is a chance to rise above the challenges. Challenges might be very hurting but they should never stop us from loving. They can even be a supportive tool that helps us to be stronger and more loving and sympathetic with others. We began to see that we are not alone in facing the tests of life because of the people who surround us with hope and love. I took every moment I have to communicate my feelings with them. Sometimes, it disheartens me when I don’t get a response but nevertheless, what’s more important is I have told them how much I value and love them.

Everyday, we are given the chance to make other’s feel that they are loved and that includes ourselves. Self-love is equally important in sharing our love with others and self-love requires self-preservation, self-respect, and self-trust. Absolutely, Self-love is much different from being Selfish. Self-love is necessary in order to love and touch other’s lives. And besides, nobody knows when our time is over so might as well do the best we can to impart love and inspiration to others. That is the very essence of our lives and that is what we are being called for – loving despite of hurting!

Always tell someone that you love them because you never know what day will be their last, or your own.

Always seek to resolve your problems or disagreements with loved ones because if either of you should pass on before, the one who is left alive will have the rest of their life to ponder those unresolved feelings but will never find closure. And closure usually brings Peace...