One typical afternoon, a friend of mine handed me a photocopy of a 'cut-out' article entitled 'Single Most Beautiful'. She asked me to read it so I will appreciate more the life of being a single person.Incidentally, I've been reading a book "A Woman and Her God" (given to me by Jackie) and it tells of also the life of a single woman and how to enjoy its every moment.
When I found myself suddenly single again, most people felt sorry for me. Maybe, they felt sorry that a wonderful relationship has ended. They felt sorry I was alone or i might end up ALONE for the rest of my life. I was so SORRY, too!
Being single doesn't only mean 'not married', but also free from any emotional attachment and commitment with the opposite sex. I could have almost forgotten how it is to be single. For years, I've been in and out of relationships (which I, of course, thought were serious) and I got emotionally dependent with the person I was involved with. It was like asking other people to 'fill the cup' for me. But then, for almost half a year of being free from relationship, I am slowly realizing the beauty of being a single person. Maybe this is something God knows I really need to endure to make me a stronger person; to make me learn love myself first (before I can effectively share it w/ someone); and most especially to love and serve GOD during this period of singleness. It is when God wants me to build an intimate and deeper relationship with HIM.
HE wants us to enjoy and fulfill every moment of our singleness so that ALL THE MORE we could enjoy and appreciate life once we get married. I realized so many things in life given the space and time I have right now. Things which didn't even crossed my mind when I was in a relationship. I realized that Life, even of a single person, is beautiful.
LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL - not only for the married but also for the singles
Yes, life of a single person is beautiful and meaningful. It is a vocation to live for and to live with. It doesn't necessarily mean that single people have lesser responsibilities than those of married ones. It is not escaping the 'hassles' of commitments or being committed to. It is not even a CHOICE, but a wonderful blessing - a STAGE of life which God planned for. Unfortunately, people these days, find it hard to believe. Honestly, I found it hard to believe also, but with the MORAL support and LOVE of the people around me (plus self therapy, plus, plus, plus...), I learned that life of being a single is as fulfilling and as beautiful as a married one.
THE GIFT OF SINGLENESS
In the book of J. Harris 'I Kissed Dating GOodbye', one chapter talks of how to keep impatience from robbing us the gift of singleness. It says that THE RIGHT THING IN THE WRONG TIME IS THE WRONG THING. Most of the times, we thought that we have the right thing in the right time because plainly it makes us feel 'happy'. "Too often, people want what they want (or what they think they want, which is usually 'happiness' in one form or another) right now. The irony of their impatience is that only by learning to WAIT, and by a willingness to accept the bad with the good, do we usually attain the things that are truly worthwhile". (William J. Bennett)We usually want to do things we want right now...but God wants us to value and appreciate the present SEASON of our lives. We couldn't tell the right time or the BEST time when to pursue romance, if we fail to understand God's very purpose for singleness. All we have to do is TRUST His timing for relationships."We should view our singleness as a special season of our lives, a gift from God." We should view this 'season' of our lives as the season to devote our time to God without distractions or limitations."Don't do something about your singlehood - do something with it!" Most people worry of staying single (that includes me..hehehe) and this cause them to pick someone and be engaged to the first empty, without enduring the virtue of PATIENCE. Fear of getting OLD and ALONE is just inside our head, but God doesn't want us to stay that way. God has the perfect plans and that includes marriage (whew, thanks God!)"We were being asked to leave the PLANNING to God" (E. Elliot - Passion and Purity)Let's enjoy all the OPPORTUNITIES of being single!
MY PRAYER
I've never given up! It has always been my prayer to be married someday so I may share my life with the one God wants me to be with...and to have lots and lots of kids to love and nurture. BUT for now, there are still a lot of things that need to be revealed and learned. I am taking steps LITTLE at a time - making sure not to SKIP this very important 'season' of my life! I strongly believe in the fulfillment of my prayers in God's OWN PERFECT TIME."Being single has a distinct beauty that many of us fail to see mainly because we are led to believe that being single is such a disgrace.""It is also true that falling out of a romance over and over again causes pain. But the advantage lies on the chance of experiencing it again and with a new person, hopefully without any regret.""When you are single, you tend to be sensitive to other's people's feelings because they know how bothersome it is when they are asked about why in God's name they are still single."
THE 8 BEATITUDES OF SINGLE PEOPLE
1. Blessed are the single people, for theirs alone is their income.
2. Blessed are those who are detached, they can go where they please, when they please.
3. Blessed are the non-couples, they shall inherit no one else's problems but their own.
4. Blessed are the uncommitted, they have no phone calls to wait for.
5. Blessed are those who do not thirst for companinship (except for God's), they do not have to share the remote.
6. Blessed are the purely unattached, for they will see what they want in a shop and go buy it without any thought as to whether their mate will approve of the purchase. In other words, they can indulge without guilt.
7. Blessed are those who are persecuted when Valentine's day rolls in, they do not need some special day declared to remind them that they are happy in their present state.
8. Blessed are you when couples walk by arm in arm on a rainy day, you are not getting wet,
they are.
In the book of J. Harris 'I Kissed Dating GOodbye', one chapter talks of how to keep impatience from robbing us the gift of singleness. It says that THE RIGHT THING IN THE WRONG TIME IS THE WRONG THING. Most of the times, we thought that we have the right thing in the right time because plainly it makes us feel 'happy'. "Too often, people want what they want (or what they think they want, which is usually 'happiness' in one form or another) right now. The irony of their impatience is that only by learning to WAIT, and by a willingness to accept the bad with the good, do we usually attain the things that are truly worthwhile". (William J. Bennett)We usually want to do things we want right now...but God wants us to value and appreciate the present SEASON of our lives. We couldn't tell the right time or the BEST time when to pursue romance, if we fail to understand God's very purpose for singleness. All we have to do is TRUST His timing for relationships."We should view our singleness as a special season of our lives, a gift from God." We should view this 'season' of our lives as the season to devote our time to God without distractions or limitations."Don't do something about your singlehood - do something with it!" Most people worry of staying single (that includes me..hehehe) and this cause them to pick someone and be engaged to the first empty, without enduring the virtue of PATIENCE. Fear of getting OLD and ALONE is just inside our head, but God doesn't want us to stay that way. God has the perfect plans and that includes marriage (whew, thanks God!)"We were being asked to leave the PLANNING to God" (E. Elliot - Passion and Purity)Let's enjoy all the OPPORTUNITIES of being single!
MY PRAYER
I've never given up! It has always been my prayer to be married someday so I may share my life with the one God wants me to be with...and to have lots and lots of kids to love and nurture. BUT for now, there are still a lot of things that need to be revealed and learned. I am taking steps LITTLE at a time - making sure not to SKIP this very important 'season' of my life! I strongly believe in the fulfillment of my prayers in God's OWN PERFECT TIME."Being single has a distinct beauty that many of us fail to see mainly because we are led to believe that being single is such a disgrace.""It is also true that falling out of a romance over and over again causes pain. But the advantage lies on the chance of experiencing it again and with a new person, hopefully without any regret.""When you are single, you tend to be sensitive to other's people's feelings because they know how bothersome it is when they are asked about why in God's name they are still single."
THE 8 BEATITUDES OF SINGLE PEOPLE
1. Blessed are the single people, for theirs alone is their income.
2. Blessed are those who are detached, they can go where they please, when they please.
3. Blessed are the non-couples, they shall inherit no one else's problems but their own.
4. Blessed are the uncommitted, they have no phone calls to wait for.
5. Blessed are those who do not thirst for companinship (except for God's), they do not have to share the remote.
6. Blessed are the purely unattached, for they will see what they want in a shop and go buy it without any thought as to whether their mate will approve of the purchase. In other words, they can indulge without guilt.
7. Blessed are those who are persecuted when Valentine's day rolls in, they do not need some special day declared to remind them that they are happy in their present state.
8. Blessed are you when couples walk by arm in arm on a rainy day, you are not getting wet,
they are.
"We couldn't lay our future in better hand, all we
have to do is TRUST."- jen (posted/written 6/28/07)
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