It's amazing how God created men and women differently. Both male and female hold special roles and place in His heart. Both are of equal importance in His sight. But it is good to know the basic differences between male and female. Many of the problems that destroy relationship are the lack of awareness of these basic differences.
"A woman has strengths that amaze men. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens. She can hold happiness, love, and opinions. She smiles when she feels like screaming. She sings when she feels like crying, cries when she's happy, and laughs when she's afraid. Her love is unconditional! There's only one thing wrong with her, she sometimes forgets what she is worth..."
TEN FACTS ABOUT WOMEN
1. She Questions Her Self-worth Sometimes
"Am I really important?" This is the usual question many women asked themselves. Maybe because in our male-dominated society, women are often times treated less than men. Most of the women are pushed to stay at home and do the household chores, attend to and take care of her children. Although, this task is what I believe the most noble job in this world, some would think that being a housewife is inferior than being a career woman. In our modern times, most women strive to be best in their chosen endeavor, but still the competition between their male counterpart is inevitable.
A loving partner should be sensitive enough to address this struggle inside a woman. He should find ways to enhance her self-worth.
2. A Woman Cherishes the Man's Expression of Appreciation
A simple "thank you" can enhance a woman's self-woth. Unfortunately, some men ignore it, while some forget it. A woman cherishes the "everyday" expression she gets from her partner. She is sensitive to all significant dates likebirthdays, anniversaries, and would you believe even monthsaries count. She appreciates a man's thoughtfulness when it comes to special occasions of her and her partner's life.
3. She Likes to have a "House-husband"
If both couples work outside the home, should not both partners work inside the house and share household duties? Every housewife needs help. Most even think that household chores are women's sole responsibility. But aren't mothers taught even their son with household chores? Is it because nobody is exempted to this. If a man thinks of a woman as the sole home maker, then he is not treating his wife fairly. A woman is a housewife, a man should also be a "house-husband". A simple act of giving his wife a break would mean a lot to her.
4. A Woman Changes Moods and Feelings
This is a physiological and psychological thing in a woman - to change moods and feelings. This has something to do with the female hormones. Women suffer from what we call PMS or pre-menstrual syndrome. PMS is a cyclic recurrence of a group of symptoms that appear during the luteal phase of the menstrual cycle (1 to 2 weeks prior to menses) and diminish significantly or disappear completely several days after the onset of menstruation. Some explains that this is caused by the elevation of estrogen and deficiency in progesterone (female hormones) otherwise known as 'hormonal imbalance'.
The symptoms both appear psychological and physiological. This PMS thing greatly affects women’s interaction especially when we look on its psychological symptoms like irritability, tension, anxiety, mood swings, aggression, depression, crying spells, and many more. There are times when women feel a need to cry over nothing or she's being vulnerable over something.
Men usually find it hard to understand because these things are not natural to them. Men usually have stabled feelings (they don't have monthly period, anyway). A need for men to understand the science of women is essential in a relationship in order for him to understand her.
5. She is a Survivor
Scientists have come up with a theory to explain why men and women seem to deal with emotion in different ways. They believe that the sexes use different networks in their brains to remember emotional events.
The researchers believe their findings show that the mental process that women use to deal with emotions is different to and more effective than that used by men. It is already known that men have fewer connections between the left and right hemispheres of their brain this is because studies showed that women have stronger corpus callusom (connection between the two hemispheres of the brain) than women. As emotion is dealt with by the right side of the brain, and speech by the left side, this could explain why men find it more difficult to talk about their emotions.
While men have stabled feelings, women have enduring feelings. Women's ability to cry out her emotions helps in promoting a healthier heart. Generally, men's ego prevents them from crying. Men perceive themselves as someone stronger than women that is why for them, crying is a form of weakness. However, this I believe is a wrong concept. Men usually suppressed their emotions leading to an increased risk for heart diseases and other complications. They usually result to other vices to divert their emotions. This makes them more susceptible to diseases, and contributes to the conclusion that women have longer life span than men. Men, remember this... "Boys don't cry, men do!"
6. She is Intuitive
In general, women are more right-brained than men, that's why they are more intuitive. In physiology, the right and left hemispheres of the brain function in different and opposite manner. The left hemisphere involves analysis while the right hemisphere uses synthesis. The left hemisphere needs to view the parts in order to see the whole thing while the right views the whole before recognizing its parts. The left hemisphere solves a problem logically and sequentially, while the right solves experimentally.
As I've said, most women are right-brained, making them more intuitive. This power of intuition makes women arrive at a conclusion spontaneously. When being asked for the reason for her feelings, motives, and decisions, she would simply say, "It's how I feel", "I have a feeling that...". Therefore, a loving partner will give attention and respect his partner's decisions, ideas, and feelings despite the absence of hard facts and proofs.
7. A Woman is Stimulated by Feelings of LoveMen are visual, women are emotional! A man is stimulated by what he sees while a woman is stimulated by what she feels. She must feel loved before she can respond effectively. She couldn't get involved without any strings of attachments. A woman is very sentimental in nature and values even the smallest thing that has of great importance in her life. If a woman's feelings get hurt, it should be healed first before she proceeds for intimate activities.
8. She Enjoys Varied Expressions of LoveThis is one of the most common cause of disagreements between lovers. A man doessnt usually understand that women enjoys varied expressions of love. While most men demonstrate their love through sexual expression, women find fulfillment in casual and intimate expressions. Women are satisfied with casual expressions of love like holding of hands, going intimate like cuddling and embracing. A man would say "If you really love me, you will give me everything." That is too selfish (but biological, for men)! A man needs to learn that his priority is not to plese himself but to put his partner's desire above his own.
9. She Needs New Eggs in the Empty Nest
This applies to women suffering from post-menopausal stage of their life. Usually, when the children are grown and have their own families and priorities, women face emptiness inside her. A woman needs to overcome this emptiness through finding new activities, new ideas, projects, new course to enrich and enhance self-fulfillment. A caring husband will give the necessary support, be it moral, emotional, and spiritual.
10. A Woman Needs to Hear the Precious Words: "I Love You"
Saying I Love You" is an affirmation of one's feelings and intentions. A budding relationship is usually filled with these words, but after some time, they are seldom spoken. It must always be present because women always need and seek for affirmations and security. Without it, the relationship burns out. A loving partner must make it a (loving) habit to affirm his feelings by saying those words. That would remind him also how much he has loved his partner from the very beginning. Some men find it hard to express those words, then find other means or ways to express them.
"An ideal partner in life is someone you can be with and talk with without realizing that the day is over. Someone who will always listen and feel twice the joy or pain you're going through. When you start to feel that 'connection' never let go because there is more than companionship than to love only. Because in the end, when all else fails and are consumed, you will always hold on to the times when you don't even need to hear the words 'I love you'..."
I am deeply touched with the movie "Children of Heaven". It is a foreign film (Iranian) dubbed in Filipino. It is a story of two siblings who share one pair of shoes... It made me remember one evening when Bien and I went out to Starbucks, little NAncy (not her real name) approached me and asked me to give her a pair of slippers so she could use it when she goes to school. Little Nancy is just one of the street children asking money from other people... it breaks my heart to see little Nancy in the middle of the night still begging for others to give her money. We couldn't see any disappointments on Little Nancy's face... everytime we see her, she is always beaming with a smile. She is a happy little lass and very enthusiastic everytime she sees us. What touched me most was when she asked me for a pair of slippers instead of money. That was so unusual because everytime I see her, I automatically hand her 20 bucks or sometimes more. I thought to myself... I never really asked her what she needs...
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